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I Have Painful Orgasms, What Are My Options?

Everyone talks about how important a healthy sex life is, but no one talks about pain during orgasm. The medical term for painful orgasms is dysorgasmia. It feels like a sex headache or deep muscle cramps that take away the pleasure of lovemaking. If you're suffering from dysorgasmia, you'll be happy to hear you're not alone and do have treatment options that work.


Symptoms of Painful Orgasms


The depth and severity of the symptoms varies and affects each person differently. Both men and women can experience cramps after sex. The condition may have always existed from your first sexual experience or have begun with no apparent cause. Regardless of the reason, dysorgasmia can cause symptoms that include:


  • Painful sex after climax 
  • Sharp abdominal pain 
  • Searing back pain 
  • Deep penetration pain in the scrotum, penis, and perineal

You can feel this pain right before or right after an orgasm.


Figure Out The Underlying Cause

The exact cause of painful orgasms isn’t known, but it’s associated with different health conditions. The first step in diagnosis is to speak to a medical professional to ascertain the underlying cause. Sometimes you have a bladder infection that can be treated with medication.

Or the reason is psychological, and sex therapy with vaginal dilator therapy is the answer. In some cases, especially in women's health, the cause can't be determined. Below are some possible reasons for painful orgasms.



One of the potential causes of dysorgasmia is endometriosis. It's when tissue grows outside of the uterus and during each menstrual cycle thickens, breaks down, and bleeds.  

Uterine Fibroids  

Another condition that could be a cause of painful orgasms is uterine fibroids. These are balls of tissue that collect in the uterus. While rarely cancerous, uterine fibroids can expand and distort the uterus, resulting in painful sex and orgasms.


Ovarian Cysts

Another underlying condition that could result in dysorgasmia is ovarian cysts. Ovarian cysts are pockets of fluid-filled sacs that collect around the ovaries. When irritated or burst can result in serious pelvic pain that feels like period cramps. 


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Pelvic Floor Dysfunction 

Pelvic floor dysfunction is a common cause of pain during sex. Your pelvic muscles act like a sling to hold your bladder, rectum, and sexual organs. The pelvic muscles are the foundation of your pelvis to keep everything in place.


It's critical that you're able to relax and contract these muscles correctly. If the muscles become weak or strained, pelvic pain can occur, making sex and orgasms painful. The reasons for the pelvic floor dysfunction can be one of the following:


  • Chronic constipation
  • Giving birth
  • Surgery
  • Traumatic injuries
  • Being overweight 
  • Aging  
  • Vulvodynia
  • Vaginismus
  • Vaginal atrophy
  • Pudendal Neuralgia
  • Connective Tissue Disorders 


The pelvic floor dysfunction symptoms include pelvic pain, issues with urination, bowel movement dysfunction, and pain during intercourse. The condition may start without warning, become chronic, or intermittent. 


Bladder Disorder  

One of the potential causes of painful orgasms is bacterial infections or disorders. Bladder disorders are when you have an overactive bladder leading to weak pelvic floor muscles. You may be unable to go to the bathroom or leak urine accidentally, amongst other symptoms.


Pelvic Inflammatory Disorder (PID)  

Another cause of dysorgasmia is PID, or an infection of the female reproductive organs.  PID is a sexually transmitted infection from bacteria being spread from your vagina to your uterus, fallopian tubes, or ovaries. It can lead to chronic pelvic pain or pelvic inflammatory disease.


Radiation Therapy  

If you experience pain after an orgasm, it may come from pelvic radiation therapy. Radiation therapy is a standard treatment for people with certain types of cancer, such as uterine cancer or prostate cancer. 

While radiation therapy helps reduce cancer cells, it can change the shape and texture of vaginal tissues. The vulva and vaginal cavity may become smaller and more sensitive with the vaginal walls inflamed, thin, and dry.


Treatment Options

Orgasm muscle cramps make it hard to truly experience a lively sex life. However, there are treatment options that lead to pain-free orgasms and healthy living.


Understand You're Not Alone 

First, understand that you're not alone and that sexual dysfunction takes a toll on mental health. The exact number isn't known for how many men and women experience pain after sex, but it's estimated to be about 20%.


One treatment option is to seek advice from a sex therapist or counselor. Speaking to a trained professional about dysorgasmia helps give you the tools to understand your condition and hopefully figure out the underlining cause and best treatment plan for you


Use Vaginal Dilators

If you experience painful orgasms, you may benefit from vaginal dilators or wands. Vaginal dilators are tube-shaped devices that resemble sex toys but are medical devices used to treat everything from pelvic floor dysfunction to chronic pelvic pain.


Vaginal dilators are a natural way to strengthen weak pelvic floor muscles that are causing pain. When you have tight vaginal tissues, you may experience involuntary muscle contraction or searing pain during intercourse. Your pelvic floor tissue may become inflamed, thin, and dry. All of which can lead to dysorgasmia or other pelvic pain conditions.


Vaginal dilators come in multiple sizes and provide a safe and effective method for overcoming sexual issues. As you learn to lengthen and relax taut muscles, youThe treatment is at your own pace, and research shows that VuVa™ magnetic vaginal dilators reduced overall pain by 80%.


Understand It Takes Time  

Post orgasm pain may take time to overcome, depending on the underlining condition. In some cases, a medicine may help ease the symptoms quickly. However, if the cause is unknown, due to weak pelvic floor muscles or traumatizing sexual activity, reducing the pain may take longer.   

Strengthening and softening tight vaginal muscles is an ongoing process that may require daily treatment for a few weeks or months before real progress can be felt. But be rest assured you can overcome painful orgasms. Vaginal dilators may be the answer you need to improve your sexual health and having the orgasm you deserve. 


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Tara Langdale Schmidt is the inventor of the VuVa Dilator Company. She has pelvic floor dysfunction herself and wanted to create a dilator set that is made in America that women can trust. VuVatech has been in business since 2014 and has helped over 50,000 women all over the globe. She patented the Neodymium Vaginal Dilator, that is clinically proven to help with blood flow and nerve pain.


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