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“Have you ever thought about just not having sex?” The Dairy of my Broken Vagina by Fran Bushe

"¿Alguna vez has pensado en simplemente no tener relaciones sexuales?" Los lácteos de mi vagina rota de Fran Bushe

por Tara Langdale en Cuidado

Escrito por Fran Bushe

"¿Alguna vez has pensado en simplemente no tener relaciones sexuales?"

Estas palabras me las dijo un médico unas semanas antes de cumplir 30 años. Había sido sexualmente activa durante 14 años y la verdad es que simplemente no 'conseguí' sexo. Quería tener sexo, pero en su mayor parte participé (haciendo ruidos apropiados de "ooh" y "aah" en lo que me parecieron intervalos razonables) y esperé que la próxima vez fuera mejor. Sobre todo me dolió.

 

Había sido así desde que tenía 16 años y era imposible saber si me dolía porque no estaba lo suficientemente excitado o no estaba lo suficientemente excitado porque siempre me preocupaba que me doliera. Esto se convirtió en un círculo vicioso y la idea de disfrutar realmente del sexo se convirtió en un sueño lejano.

 

A los 30 decidí que ya era suficiente. Estaba cansada de sentirme decepcionada y quería convertirme en una diosa sexual multiorgásmica, tántrica, que viene con facilidad, nunca dolorosa. O, al menos, aprender a disfrutar, un poco, del sexo que estaba teniendo. Ese año, Viagra se puso a la venta sin receta (en el Reino Unido) y me enojó que los problemas sexuales de las personas con vaginas no estuvieran siendo tratados con la misma atención, cuidado o empatía. Había soportado demasiado sentada frente a los médicos, quienes no me miraban a los ojos mientras barajaban sus papeles avergonzados. Me hicieron sentir que pedir disfrutar del sexo era autoindulgente, irrazonable y codicioso. Sintiéndome ignorada y aislada, terminé escribiendo sobre mis experiencias.

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No pensé que nadie estaría interesado en oír hablar de mi vagina. Lo único que podía imaginarme era a la gente poniendo los ojos en blanco y pensando: "Dios mío, habrá una mujer en el escenario gritándome sobre su vagina durante 55 minutos". Me equivoqué, resulta que la gente está muy interesada en mi vagina. ¡Escuchémoslo por mi vagina!

 

compre dilatadores vaginales ahora

 

Primero escribí mi espectáculo Ad Libido, que se había agotado en todo el Reino Unido. Ahora estoy escribiendo un libro y acabo de lanzar un piloto de televisión basado en mis propios diarios, El diario de mi vagina rota . Para mí, hablar de ello da miedo, ya que significa admitir abiertamente que me siento íntimamente roto en lo más profundo de mi ser, pero también me ha animado a comunicarme y no sentir que esto es algo con lo que tengo que lidiar por mi cuenta.

 
Fran Bushe
@franbushe
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