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Scared to Have Sex Because it Hurts? These May be Some Reasons Why

Takut Berhubungan Seks Kerana Sakit? Ini Mungkin Beberapa Sebab Mengapa

by Caroline Knight in Peduli

Kadang-kadang pemikiran seks boleh menimbulkan ketakutan ke dalam hati wanita yang benar-benar ingin bersenang-senang dan merasa terhubung dengan pasangan mereka. Wanita dari pelbagai budaya dan umur mengalami dispareunia (seks yang menyakitkan). Apabila seorang wanita takut untuk melakukan hubungan seks kerana ia menyakitkan, dia mungkin merasakan banyak tekanan untuk menangani masalah itu sendiri. Ini mungkin bukan pilihan yang berdaya maju walaupun; ia benar-benar bergantung pada sebab asas mengapa seks menyakitkan.

Malangnya masih terdapat banyak stigma tentang keadaan seksual semua jenis, dan orang ramai selalunya tidak mahu bercakap tentang sebarang tahap disfungsi seksual. Mereka mungkin berasa malu, atau ingin mengelak daripada mengecewakan atau membimbangkan pasangan mereka. Apabila wanita takut untuk melakukan hubungan seks biasanya ada sebab yang sangat baik mengapa. Walau bagaimanapun, alasan itu mungkin tidak selalu jelas kepada mereka. Mungkin yang mereka tahu ialah seks itu menyakitkan setiap masa, yang sudah cukup untuk menghalang sesiapa pun!

Kami telah mengumpulkan ringkasan kemungkinan sebab seks menyakitkan supaya anda dapat menyelesaikan masalah anda dan memulakan jalan menuju penyembuhan.

Kemungkinan sebab anda takut untuk melakukan hubungan seks

Tiada siapa yang boleh menyalahkan anda kerana cuba mengelakkan kesakitan… tetapi seks yang menyakitkan adalah cerita lain, kerana ia juga boleh menimbulkan masalah emosi dan keyakinan dari semasa ke semasa. Jika anda takut untuk melakukan hubungan seks, sudah pasti ia mengurangkan kualiti hubungan anda, atau kehidupan secara umum.

Berikut adalah beberapa sebab utama seks menyakitkan:

Sebab fizikal seks menyakitkan

  • Anda mengalami keradangan di sekitar pembukaan faraj anda
  • Anda mempunyai sejenis jangkitan ( jangkitan dermatologi atau yis , atau STD)
  • Anda mempunyai vulvodynia (sakit akibat saraf yang terlalu responsif di kawasan faraj)
  • Anda mempunyai vaginismus (kekejangan dan pengetatan otot faraj)
  • Anda mempunyai pudendal neuralgia (kerosakan saraf pada kawasan pelvis)
  • Anda telah menjalani pembedahan di kawasan pelvis
  • Anda sedang melalui atau telah mencapai menopaus (mengakibatkan atrofi faraj )
  • Anda tidak menghasilkan pelinciran yang mencukupi (mungkin melalui penurunan hormon)

Jika mana-mana isu ini nampaknya berkemungkinan anda, anda patut menyemak dengan pengamal kesihatan anda untuk penilaian. Sesetengah masalah lebih mudah untuk dirawat daripada yang lain, tetapi tidak mungkin mana-mana perkara di atas akan diselesaikan tanpa campur tangan dalam beberapa jenis. Dalam kes kekurangan pelinciran, anda mungkin ingin mencuba pelincir peribadi berasaskan air .

Penyebab dispareunia psikologi

Apabila anda takut untuk melakukan hubungan seks kerana ia menyakitkan, anda mungkin terkejut apabila mendapati puncanya adalah psikologi. Jika tiada tanda-tanda ketidakselesaan fizikal yang jelas kecuali apabila anda melakukan hubungan seks, dan anda fikir anda boleh menolak vaginismus, adalah wajar memikirkan sama ada punca dispareunia anda adalah psikologi.

Kebanyakan punca psikologi boleh mengakibatkan sama ada kekeringan melalui kekurangan pelinciran semula jadi, atau ketegangan otot akibat kebimbangan. Yang terakhir ini mungkin kelihatan seperti vaginismus, dan walaupun vaginismus boleh mempunyai punca psikologi , seorang profesional perlu mengesahkan keadaan ini.

  • Anda telah kehilangan dorongan seks anda (libido)
  • Anda mempunyai trauma psikologi yang tidak dapat diselesaikan di sekitar seks
  • Anda mempunyai kebimbangan prestasi, menjadikan anda cemas atau terdedah kepada ketegangan otot
  • Hormon anda tidak seimbang, membawa kepada gangguan mood atau masalah emosi (seperti yang boleh berlaku pada perimenopause )
  • Anda menghadapi masalah dalam perhubungan anda (jadi sudah tidak melakukan hubungan seks)
  • Anda tertekan secara umum dan ini merebak ke dalam bilik tidur

Perlu difikirkan sama ada anda mempunyai tindak balas emosi yang berakar umbi yang membuatkan anda takut untuk melakukan hubungan seks. Jika anda fikir ini mungkin masalahnya, kadangkala ahli terapi seksual atau kaunselor adalah tempat yang terbaik untuk dihubungi.

Intinya ialah jika anda kerap takut untuk melakukan hubungan seks kerana ia menyakitkan, sebelum ini menjadi lingkaran setan adalah bijak untuk mendaftar masuk dengan penyedia penjagaan kesihatan anda untuk menentukan punca asas. Tidak menjadi masalah untuk mengabaikan atau mengambil mudah, dan apabila anda mengetahui puncanya, anda mungkin terkejut betapa mudahnya untuk mencari rawatan yang sesuai untuk masalah anda.

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