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Cara Mengatasi Ketakutan Terhadap Keintiman Fizikal

by Tara Langdale in Peduli

Ketakutan terhadap keintiman fizikal boleh menyebabkan kekacauan dalam kehidupan wanita. Ia memberi kesan buruk terhadap harga diri dan hubungan percintaannya, dan jika tidak ditangani, ia boleh menjadi masalah serius yang menjejaskan kualiti hidupnya. Ketakutan terhadap seks (genophobia) sebenarnya adalah perkara biasa, tetapi ia boleh diatasi.

Mengatasi ketakutan terhadap keintiman fizikal mungkin memerlukan lebih daripada satu bentuk rawatan, dan ini boleh bersifat psikologi atau fizikal bergantung pada punca masalah. Artikel terbaru kami tentang punca ketakutan seks dan keintiman fizikal menangani beberapa sebab yang paling biasa untuk isu ini.

Artikel ini akan melihat apa yang boleh anda lakukan untuk mengatasi ketakutan terhadap keintiman fizikal.

Bagaimana untuk mengatasi ketakutan terhadap keintiman fizikal

Pertama sekali adalah perlu untuk menentukan sama ada ketakutan anda terhadap keintiman berpunca daripada isu fizikal atau psikologi. Ketakutan terhadap keintiman fizikal secara amnya mempunyai asal-usul psikologi, namun bagi sesetengah wanita ini mengakibatkan manifestasi fizikal yang boleh memburukkan lagi ketakutan terhadap keintiman.

Mari kita lihat punca paling biasa ketakutan terhadap keintiman dan cara menanganinya:

Sebab fizikal

Keadaan fizikal boleh menyebabkan ketakutan terhadap keintiman seksual kerana kesakitan atau rasa malu yang ditimbulkan. Sebagai contoh, jika anda mempunyai vaginismus, anda sedang menghadapi masalah fizikal, tetapi keadaan itu sendiri berkemungkinan mempunyai asal-usul psikologi. Dalam kes ini, anda mungkin memerlukan gabungan kaunseling atau terapi seksual dan beberapa bentuk terapi fizikal untuk membantu menguruskan gejala fizikal.

Ramai wanita berjaya dengan alat pembesar faraj , yang membolehkan mereka mengamalkan penembusan dalam privasi rumah mereka, pada masa mereka sendiri. Akhirnya ketakutan terhadap penembusan mungkin akan reda. Dilator juga boleh membantu melatih minda anda untuk melepaskan kebimbangan yang anda rasai di sekitar keintiman.

Jika anda menghidap vulvodynia, anda akan mengalami seks yang menyakitkan (dispareunia), yang cenderung menyebabkan ketakutan terhadap keintiman fizikal kerana hubungan seks dikaitkan dengan kesakitan. Vulvodynia tidak mungkin mempunyai punca psikologi, dan perlu dirawat dengan bantuan pengamal berpengalaman. Rawatan vulvodynia biasa termasuk terapi lantai pelvik, teknik penjagaan diri semula jadi, ubat-ubatan dan pembesaran faraj. Seperti halnya vaginismus, dilator faraj boleh membantu faraj anda membiasakan diri dengan perasaan penembusan.

Punca psikologi

Jika ketakutan anda terhadap keintiman fizikal berpunca daripada sejarah penderaan seksual, imej diri yang buruk atau kebimbangan prestasi, beberapa jenis kaunselor profesional akan bersedia untuk membantu anda mengatasi perkaitan negatif anda dengan seks atau isu harga diri.

Psikoterapi datang dalam pelbagai bentuk, dan rawatan yang diperlukan adalah unik untuk setiap orang, tetapi terapi jangka panjang secara amnya bermanfaat dalam menguruskan ketakutan terhadap keintiman. Jenis terapi psikologi yang paling biasa ialah:

  • CBT (Terapi Tingkah Laku Kognitif) EMDR (Penyahpekaan Pergerakan Mata dan Pemprosesan Semula)
  • Pengalaman Somatik (SE)
  • Psikoterapi tradisional lain untuk Gangguan Tekanan Selepas Trauma (PTSD)

Anda mungkin perlu berunding dengan lebih daripada satu jenis ahli terapi untuk mengetahui sama ada ia sesuai untuk anda. Sebagai contoh, ahli terapi CBT mungkin memperkenalkan cara pemikiran atau teknik yang berbeza untuk membantu anda mengatasi pencetus, manakala ahli terapi seksual mungkin menangani perasaan anda dan mengajar anda strategi untuk merangka semula aktiviti seksual. Kaunselor mungkin boleh membantu anda menyelesaikan isu asas yang menyebabkan persepsi diri negatif atau kebimbangan prestasi anda.

Jika anda fikir anda mungkin mengalami keadaan sakit faraj atau anda mendapat reaksi fobia yang teruk terhadap keintiman seksual, diagnosis yang betul adalah penting. Doktor anda sepatutnya dapat memberikan anda beberapa sumber yang berguna dan jika perlu, berikan anda rujukan kepada jenis ahli terapi yang sesuai untuk masalah anda. Mengatasi ketakutan terhadap keintiman fizikal kadangkala boleh menjadi jalan yang panjang, tetapi ia pastinya berbaloi. Buat komitmen dan anda akan sampai ke sana!

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